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Dear Erotic New York:

I recently got married to a great man. We've been together for over five years. At first, the sex was great. We were very adventurous and would have sex almost every day. Over time, we started to have less and less sex. I married him because I love him and he's a great man, but it concerns me that I may have to give up a part of my life that I enjoy very much. I've spoken to him about it, but nothing's changed. How can I have more sex with my new husband??!!

Horny in New York

Dear Horny in New York:

First, I would like to take this opportunity to dispel a very common myth, and that is that women do not like or want sex. Ha!! What a crock of shit! We love sex! If you're a woman and you're reading this, if a man tells you that women don't want or need sex as much as men, run for the hills! This guy's a loser because either he's bad in bed and doesn't know how to keep his partner happy, or, sadly, he's met one of the few exceptions to our gender, and doesn't know the joy of a horny woman.

Anyway, I digress...back to you, Horny in New York...Ok, your husband is a great guy, so what you need to do is find out what he enjoys and do it. He just may not be as horny as you, so you might have to resign yourself to having sex a few times a week and not everyday (check out our section on Adult Toys cause that's what a good vibrator is for!), but once you have an open and honest dialogue about how to please each other and how often you each want to have sex, you're on your way back to a hot sex life. Do have your husband get regular physical exams to make sure that he's up to the task, so to speak. Also, make a habit of getting out of the city on weekend getaways. Some of my horniest times are at the beach or hiking. Just watch what you lean against!

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Blackpearl I don't know about your advice. I'm extremely sexual and my hubby is not. After 4 years of marriage, it's like he has selective amnesia about who he married. This year I actually threatened to get a lover and put allllllllllll of my sexual cards on the table. The sex got great for about 2 weeks and then it was back to the regular not-getting-sex rut. It was because of this that I created my blog to get my frustrations out before I succumb to cheating. www.nocturnalchat.blogspot.com

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