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Do you ever have those moments when everything in your blossoming romance is going swimmingly, and all signs point to true love heading your way, but, for some reason, you can't shake your neuroses that something's about to bite you in the ass?

You're worried that in the three days between dates, he's going to meet somebody he thinks is cuter.

You've let slip out one of your flaws that is an absolute deal-breaker for him.

You're worried he'd find out what a whore you were before you started dating.

I've been seeing someone for over a month now. Still not official, but pretty damn close. We're all smiley and starry-eyed and disgustingly cute together, and there's absolutely nothing for me to be worried about. So why do I still get worried?

If I don't get a text from him by a certain hour of the day, I start to panic. Or, if the text is very abrupt, or contains no happy emoticons, I get nervous that he's losing interest. I can understand why I might be like this with somebody new, if we've only been on one date, and I still can't tell if he likes me. But with such a sure thing, I shouldn't be so jittery.

The horrible facts of life always manage to get in the way of our enjoyment of it. I've had many a fresh romance cut short. I've had plenty of men break off contact without warning. I've often misinterpreted love as lust and vice-versa. It all rains on my parade like you would not believe. So whenever something good finally comes my way, I'm afraid to take it for fear it may explode all over my face (not in the good way!).

How do we escape the Doubt Monster? How do we learn to embrace the good things that life gives us without this fear gnawing at our insides? How do we trust our instincts?

We can't let the assholes in our life dictate how we relate to others. I'm not going to punish someone who cares about me because some other boy cracked my heart in two. And I'm not going to let the Doubt Monster hurt the first healthy relationship I've had in years. Fuck him.

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