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Boundaries... Labels... Definitions... Throwing around terms and attitudes. Looking down on one and up to another. Getting a fucking crick in the neck. And I can think of a few BETTER ways to get one of those, my friends!

Let's face it - we all develop a code of conduct - or most of us do. But upon what is it based? Can we say? Should we be able to? I think - yes. Why do we treat each other as we do? We should be able to answer that question more often than not. Or, at the very least, admit to NOT knowing the answer.

And what brings us joy?

The expression of the SELF... Not someone's skewed perception thereof... Ahhh... So when I refer to healthy Self-expression, that is what I mean - the expression of our true self (or truest at any given moment). And not some bastardization of it. I know that these two things are not necessarily mutually exclusive AND that there are no absolutes really.

But - we know within ourselves when we are enacting a lie. Or let me say that most alternative lifestylers know this. The lie is what impels us toward an alternative lifestyle. We know there is more to our existence than what we had been lead to believe since childhood. We feel the conflict between how we are living and how we know we SHOULD be living. Or - let me say this: we feel the conflict between how we are living and the knowledge that there is MORE within us demanding to be EXPLORED, recognized and celebrated.

Years ago, I adopted the notion that we are all comprised of a universe... a self-contained (but not really contained) microcosm, if you will. We possess within us all aspects of creation. ALL!! And free will - the concept of which I do espouse - has to do with our decision as to HOW we wish to explore, recognize, celebrate, and honor all these aspects - both negative and positive.

Since joining the Fetish/BDSM community, I see that my "little" notion was much more on target than I had ever imagined. And what joy there is in that!!

My point - we are not simply reflections, but offshoots of the Infinite. It stands to reason really, since we are made of the same carbon - the self-same particles - that has existed since the currently-physically-perceived beginning of EVERYTHING perceptible (that is, the understood beginning of the universe).

And - watching the garden bloom in the front of my house, I have been struck by these two lessons - taught to me by roses. YESSSS - ROSES!! The first rose on the rose bush bloomed - splendiferous! And there were many buds trembling in a state of readiness... BUT, until that first bloom had been pruned, none of those buds would open. Interesting no? A lesson in non-attachment? As beautiful and fragrant as that first rose was, it had to be released before the other buds would open. And now there is a riot of blooms and perfume adorning my front garden.

The other lesson is from a gift of a cut rose. Once cut, of course the rose is dying. After a while, the stem where it has been wounded will callous over a bit, become less able to absorb water. So upon bringing it home to put in a vase, one must cut the stem once more (with water running over it)... Ahhh - after the initial wounding, the rose must be wounded again in order to renew its receptivity to rejuvenating effects of the water. Within minutes the wilted bud began to open. Think about that. Is that not a most poetic truth?

Sometimes we cling to what we are to the detriment of what we may become.

And so - I say - Let us honor The Becoming!

Go in peace to love and serve YOUR TRUTH!

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